Parenting with an Open Heart returns to East Vancouver!

Are looking to refine and enhance what you’ve been doing as a parent because you just “know” that you can and that both you and your child(ren) would benefit all the more from it?

Or are you a frustrated parent floating aimlessly in a sea of authoritarian how-tos that simply don’t work for you or your child(ren)?

Maybe you have even discovered your own parents in your words and actions and wondered how the heck that happened?!

Parenting with an Open Heart is returning to East Vancouver and is all about empowering the knowledge and wisdom that every human being comes with, passed down for millions of generations, but only recently doubted and suppressed.

(Read what other parents have thought about these seminars below)

Although these past 10,000 years have put many barriers between the civilized person’s intuitive knowledge and day-to-day life, thankfully our innate human heritage remains!

This seminar series is designed to help you reconnect with instinctive and heart-centred parenting…with its joy and success!  It will revolve around you and what you need and it’s designed for all parents, care-givers and parents-to-be, of any generation.  Sure, there’s lots of information to be gleaned, but we’ll work with your life and use our lives as examples so it will be as easy as possible to Parent with an Open Heart.

Our next sessions will focus on Authoritative Parenting and add a twist of trust.  It’s very different than Authoritarian Parenting and is one of many ways to break out of the Authoritarian/Permissive box that civilized parents often find ourselves in.

Alice Miller’s work will help us understand how we ended up in that little parenting box….

On March 10, 2013, we’ll start the session with a look and demonstration of at least 3 different ways to get around by bicycle.  We’ll have a tandem that anyone from 4 and up can ride, a front seat that I call the “best seat out of the house”, and a bike trailer for one.  And if you bring your bike, you can see if the bike seat or trailer will work with it.

Then we will focus on how we can have fun any moment we choose to, and how those behaviours we’ve learned to dread are really trying to help us discover more…about ourselves and our child(ren).

And all along the way, we’ll keep in mind what we and our children actually need.

In particular, we’ll create a toolbox of tips for compassionate parents to rely on when times get tough.

Other topics that invariably come up:

We’ll focus on the positives of all these, but we won’t ignore the problems of parenting with a closed heart.

Nonviolent communication is a technique that will be used during the course of this seminar; you need not know it or even want to learn it, but it will help you discover your feelings and needs and those of the rest of your family.  It is highly recommended!  And most importantly, it will help us keep the Parenting with an Open Heart seminar space a “No-fault Zone!”

The series continues through March on Saturday evenings.  These sessions will be held in a private residence at 2105 Parker (corner of Lakewood Drive; enter from Lakewood through a gate into the basement).

We’ll begin at 6:00pm for 2 hours.

You’ll receive Compassionate Communication hand-outs and for those that register for the whole set of 7 sessions, you’ll also receive an electronic version of Magical Parent, Magical Child (see below for package info).  Plus you’ll receive our excellent and inspiring bibliography and reading list.

Admission to the first session is by donation, and I don’t want anyone to use cost as a reason not to come.  Snacks and teas are provided.  My goal is simply to make life more wonderful for more people!    And yes, children are welcome and there are oodles of toys on site!

This time I’ll be offering package rates as well: 8 weeks of sessions for $150, which includes an electronic version of Magical Parent, Magical Child and have access to our full lending library.  Drop-in is $25 per session; for anyone who needs it, the scale can slide.

Pre-registration for Parenting with an Open Heart is advised and recommended.  Simply email me at bike at resist dot ca or call me at 604.216.6700 with your name and contact info.

Again, upcoming session dates in Vancouver are Saturday, February 2nd, and Saturday February 9th.  These will be held in a private residence at 2105 Parker (corner of Lakewood Drive; enter from Lakewood through a gate into the basement)…we’ll begin at 6:00pm for 2 hours.

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Parenting with an Open Heart – a Coaching Series by Phone

Are looking to refine and enhance what you’ve been doing as a parent because you just “know” that you can and that both you and your child(ren) would benefit all the more from it?

Or are you a frustrated parent floating aimlessly in a sea of authoritarian how-tos that simply don’t work for you or your child(ren)?

Maybe you have even discovered your own parents in your words and actions and wondered how the heck that happened?!

A new parenting seminar series entitled Parenting with an Open Heart is all about empowering the knowledge and wisdom that every human being comes with, passed down for millions of generations, but only recently doubted and suppressed.

Although these past 10,000 years have put many barriers between the civilized person’s intuitive knowledge and day-to-day life, thankfully our innate human heritage remains!

This seminar series is designed to help you reconnect with instinctive and heart-centred parenting…with its joy and success!  It will revolve around you and what you need and it’s designed for all parents, care-givers and parents-to-be, of any generation.  Sure, there’s lots of information to be gleaned, but we’ll work with your life and use our lives as examples so it will be as easy as possible to Parent with an Open Heart.

Our next sessions will focus on Authoritative Parenting and add a twist of trust.  It’s very different than Authoritarian Parenting and is one of many ways to break out of the Authoritarian/Permissive box that civilized parents often find ourselves in.

Alice Miller’s work will help us understand how we ended up in that little parenting box….

And all along the way, we’ll keep in mind what we and our children actually need.

In particular, we’ll create a toolbox of tips for compassionate parents to rely on when times get tough.

Other topics that invariably come up:

We’ll focus on the positives of all these, but we won’t ignore the problems of parenting with a closed heart.

Nonviolent communication is a technique that will be used during the course of this seminar; you need not know it or even want to learn it, but it will help you discover your feelings and needs and those of the rest of your family.  It is highly recommended!  And most importantly, it will help us keep the Parenting with an Open Heart seminar space a “No-fault Zone!”

Each session is by donation, and I don’t want anyone to use cost as a reason not to participate; the suggested sliding scale is $0 to $50.  If it’s more enjoyable for you to trade or barter services or goods, then please let me know so we can arrange it.  My goal is simply to make life more wonderful for more people!

To registerbfor Parenting with an Open Heart,  simply email me at eec at resist dot ca (replacing the at with an “@” [no quotes] and the dot with a “.”; sorry for the extra edits but it keeps the spam down) or call me at 604.216.6700 or 877-873-1797 (toll-free).

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Parenting with an Open Heart – next Session on March 24, 2012 from 2 to 4pm

Are looking to refine and enhance what you’ve been doing as a parent because you just “know” that you can and that both you and your child(ren) would benefit all the more from it?

Or are you a frustrated parent floating aimlessly in a sea of authoritarian how-tos that simply don’t work for you or your child(ren)?

Maybe you have even discovered your own parents in your words and actions and wondered how the heck that happened?!

A new parenting seminar series entitled Parenting with an Open Heart is all about empowering the knowledge and wisdom that every human being comes with, passed down for millions of generations, but only recently doubted and suppressed.

Although these past 10,000 years have put many barriers between the civilized person’s intuitive knowledge and day-to-day life, thankfully our innate human heritage remains!

This seminar series is designed to help you reconnect with instinctive and heart-centred parenting…with its joy and success!  It will revolve around you and what you need and it’s designed for all parents, care-givers and parents-to-be, of any generation.  Sure, there’s lots of information to be gleaned, but we’ll work with your life and use our lives as examples so it will be as easy as possible to Parent with an Open Heart.

Our next sessions will focus on Authoritative Parenting and add a twist of trust.  It’s very different than Authoritarian Parenting and is one of many ways to break out of the Authoritarian/Permissive box that civilized parents often find ourselves in.

Alice Miller’s work will help us understand how we ended up in that little parenting box….

And all along the way, we’ll keep in mind what we and our children actually need.

In particular, we’ll create a toolbox of tips for compassionate parents to rely on when times get tough.

Other topics that invariably come up:

We’ll focus on the positives of all these, but we won’t ignore the problems of parenting with a closed heart.

Nonviolent communication is a technique that will be used during the course of this seminar; you need not know it or even want to learn it, but it will help you discover your feelings and needs and those of the rest of your family.  It is highly recommended!  And most importantly, it will help us keep the Parenting with an Open Heart seminar space a “No-fault Zone!”

Admission to each session is by donation, and I don’t want anyone to use cost as a reason not to come.  Snacks are provided (but bring your own specialty to share if you wish) and the suggested sliding scale is $0 to $50.  If it’s more enjoyable for you to trade or barter services or goods, then please let me know so we can arrange it.  My goal is simply to make life more wonderful for more people!    And yes, children are welcome!

Pre-registration for Parenting with an Open Heart is advised and recommended.  Simply email me at eec at resist dot ca (replacing the at with an “@” [no quotes] and the dot with a “.”; sorry for the extra edits but it keeps the spam down) or call me at 604.216.6700 with your name and contact info.  In the event of a last minute change, I’ll make sure you are kept up-to-date.

The next session date for Vancouver is Saturday, March 24th, 2012 in the naturally-lit common room of Paloma Housing Co-op (1580 East 3rd Avenue, 1 block west of Commercial Drive.  We’ll start at 2pm for 2 hours.  The space is child friendly and my daughter specifically requested a time when she could attend, so we’ll have arts and crafts available as well as snacks.  If it’s dry and warm enough for everyone, we’ll hold the sessions outside in the courtyard. Continue reading

Parenting with an Open Heart – a Seminar Series for All Parents and Parents-to-be

Are looking to refine and enhance what you’ve been doing as a parent because you just “know” that you can and that both you and your child(ren) would benefit all the more from it?

Or are you a frustrated parent floating aimlessly in a sea of authoritarian how-tos that simply don’t work for you or your child(ren)?

Maybe you have even discovered your own parents in your words and actions and wondered how the heck that happened?!

A new parenting seminar series entitled Parenting with an Open Heart is all about empowering the knowledge and wisdom that every human being comes with, passed down for millions of generations, but only recently doubted and suppressed.

Although these past 10,000 years have put many barriers between the civilized person’s intuitive knowledge and day-to-day life, thankfully our innate human heritage remains!

This seminar series is designed to help you reconnect with instinctive and heart-centred parenting…with its joy and success!  It will revolve around you and what you need and it’s designed for all parents, care-givers and parents-to-be, of any generation.  Sure, there’s lots of information to be gleaned, but we’ll work with your life and use our lives as examples so it will be as easy as possible to Parent with an Open Heart.

We’ll start by looking at how we got to where we are, by using Alice Miller’s work as a primary guide.

We’ll also look at the what current day parenting guides and books are really telling us; what works and doesn’t work and why.

Then, we’ll explore what we and our children actually need.

We’ll talk about:

  • home births (Ina May Gaskin makes this as easy as it could be),
  • attachment parenting (the kind described in The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff),
  • diaper-free or elimination communication,
  • sign language,
  • how to meet both our and our child(ren)’s needs simultaneously or nearly so,
  • home- or un-schooling aka natural learning,
  • how to enjoy getting around on foot and bike with an infant up to a young adult,
  • why what we put in our bodies (food, drugs/vaccines) is so important,
  • how to inspire the behaviours that you desire rather than creating a power struggle,
  • and much much more.

We’ll focus on the positives of all these, but we won’t ignore the problems of parenting with a closed heart.

Nonviolent communication is a technique that will be used during the course of this seminar; you need not know it or even want to learn it, but it will help you discover your feelings and needs and those of the rest of your family.  It is highly recommended!  And most importantly, it will help us keep the Parenting with an Open Heart seminar space a “No-fault Zone!”

Admission to each session is by donation, and I don’t want anyone to use cost as a reason not to come.  Snacks are provided (but bring your own specialty to share if you wish) and the suggested sliding scale is $0 to $50.  If it’s more enjoyable for you to trade or barter services or goods, then please let me know so we can arrange it.  My goal is simply to make life more wonderful for more people!    And yes, children are welcome!

Pre-registration for Parenting with an Open Heart is advised and recommended.  Simply email me at eec at resist dot ca (replacing the at with an “@” [no quotes] and the dot with a “.”; sorry for the extra edits but it keeps the spam away) or call me at 604.216.6700 with your name and contact info.  In the event of a last minute change, I’ll make sure you are kept up-to-date.

Session dates for Vancouver are Friday, May 20th, Friday, June 3rd, and Friday June 17th at the Lion’s Den, 770 Commercial Drive (corner of Adanac; enter from Commercial into the basement).  We’ll start gathering at 6pm and formally begin at 6:30pm for 2 hours.  My goal is to get you home by 9pm. Continue reading

More Transit Fares for More People

TransLink has done it again: they’ve raised fares for the fourth time in less than 8 years. This time across the board (passes and tickets, too). Oh joy.

That’s a 40% increase at the farebox; the ever-helpful Bank of Canada tells me that inflation over this period has been less than 16%, meaning fares have gone up 2 and half times faster than everything else. Since the last fare increase in 2005, inflation has been less than 4%, but this latest fare increase is 10% (2 and half times more again). Not quite what TransLink wrote back in May: “transit fare revenue increase of six per cent is proposed, representing general inflation over the 2005-2007 period.”

But of course, it’s worth it, right? No pain, no gain. Wrong.

To justify the fare increase in 2000, we were promised 500 new buses.

To justify the fare increase in 2002, we were promised 400 new buses.

The only new buses that have come since any of the fare increases in 2000, 2002, and 2005 are replacement buses that were needed 10 years ago.

This time, TransLink heralds the largest bus expansion in 31 years (better sit down for this one): 90 buses. That’s not even 10% of what we have already and a far cry from those earlier promises.

It fits the trend though; each time they promise less and deliver the same: nothing.

That would all be bad enough, but now TransLink is trying to brainwash us into thinking that Transit Service equals Fares. Want more Service? Pay more Fares. Want Peace? Go to War. Want freedom? Give up your Rights. TransLink is spinning with the best.

Let’s look at a few of the details of their latest missive, titled: More Transit Service for More People.

Read: More Transit Lies for More People.

Let’s start with the obvious: “Since the last fare increase in 2005, TransLink has significantly expanded and modernized its bus fleet.” Hello? The only “bus” fleet that has expanded is the Community Shuttles, aka minibuses, whose drivers get less pay and benefits than regular bus operators. Aha.

The “modernized” part of that lie, I mean advertisement (same thing), above must refer to the new trolleys, which were supposed to go into service in 2001. These long awaited trolleys are so modern that they can’t take bikes in their racks after dark! But they do have signs that can say “Sorry, Bus Full.” Now that’s More Transit Service.

The specific new promises (34 new SpyTrain cars and a 3rd Seabus) won’t be fulfilled until 2009 (don’t hold your breath), but the fares go up now. Nice.

But wait! There’s more…we will get “continued expansion and modernization of the bus fleet” and “new routes and more frequent service.” Gee, how will that be measured? And why would we believe it?

The one promise made that you can bet on is that fares will go up again within 3 years. If the current TransLink management remains, they may break this one, too…in order to raise them sooner.

Too bad they didn’t use the money spent on this propaganda to buy the new buses that they keep promising and not delivering; I’d guess this latest bit of propaganda is worth at least one and maybe even 3 or 4 new buses more.

So what to do, what to do?

If you’re a parent in the ‘burbs, I bet you’re not going to bring your 3 kids with you into the City by bus. That would put you back at least $30; gas still doesn’t cost that much and there is lots of free parking to be had.

If you’re a commuter, or “regular customer” in TransLink-talk, maybe you have the resources to stock up on “FareSaver” tickets or you buy a FareCard. Or maybe it’s just cheaper and easier to drive. Only 10% of commuters before the fare increase would have disagreed. How many more will be driving in 2008?

Okay, before the doom and gloom sets in, let’s get to some action plans to lift our spirits…

1. write a letter, if you haven’t already. I’m sure this will make a big difference in the fares imposed by TransLink.
2. attend a TransLink Board meeting. Oops, sorry, these have been privatized by Kevin Falcon and TransLink’s CEO Pat Jacobson (you know, the woman who created Canada’s first private highway for Ontario’s version of BC’s Liberals). But hey, weren’t those old meetings fun! The Chair was always so friendly and encouraged everyone attending to share her/his thoughts with them.
3. write a blog entry. I recommend this especially for any parents reading this. Not only will this make you feel much better but it will make it look like you are doing something…so that when your child looks you in the eye just before the planet dies, you can say you…wrote a blog…
4. write a letter…oh wait, we did that already.
4. write a series about Fare-Free Transit to show how easy it can be and how evil fares are. That will show TransLink!

I guess that’s it for law abiding, good people like us. Oh wait, we can talk about the issue with all our friends and family…yeah, that’s number 5. And my personal favourite:

6. Vote next November for transit-friendly politicians. Unlike when they governed TransLink during the last 4 fare increase, they won’t have any influence over TransLink’s policy or staff. But you voted for a change! Well done.

Unfortunately, most that can, will probably opt for number 7: drive a car. And who could blame them if the planet wasn’t burning?

Of course, blogs like these aren’t read by only good and nice people like us. Which means, of course, there’s hope…so here’s a list for those “other” folks:

1. Stop paying fares. Why pay for something that we own and already paid for with taxes and rent and hydro bills and gas taxes. Of course, drivers gotta do their job, which is drive the bus and inform you of the fare. But remember, the driver is a working stiff like most of us, so do give a smile and a hello/thanks. It makes all the difference. In short: don’t just dream about it, be the Fare-Free Transit system you desire!
2. Share your transfers/tickets, if you have one. Despite TransLink’s propaganda that tries to scare people into unlearning decent, common behaviour, it is NOT a crime to share. Even with strangers.
3. Get a ticket from the only Transit Police in the country (with the only Police board that has cops) and challenge it in court. Hey, “those” folks are often rich and the rich write the rules. Besides, “Fare-Paid Zones” are public property paid for by you and me. Sharing is as human as breathing. Taking transit is good communal behaviour, not a crime! Or is it driving alone in a noisy, polluting, greenhouse gas emitting, one tonne killing machine? I can never remember…

Speaking of killing machines, all of the guns and tasers and cars and uniforms and salaries for the only Transit Police in the country, could have bought 40 new buses by now.

That’s new buses, as in an expanded fleet, not empty promises.

i Viva la farestrike !